During his first intensive in September 2010, Aditya grew immensely in just a week. (Actually, he began growing there in a week in a way that never really stopped for the next 14 months!)
But in our visit to the magical Son Rise House last week, we think we (parents) are the ones who grew immensely!
For one, we figured out, thanks to Aditya's wonderful and talented Son Rise friends, his core challenges as at this time, and how to go help him with those.
But the light-bulb moment came when we figured out (through dialogues with our teachers) that there really is no way to recover him from autism without total acceptance of his autism. Also, no doubt that his full recovery is our WANT, but when we make it a NEED, it stops us from being in the loving and accepting (and hence, the most effective for his recovery) attitude!
In fact, when we turn any want into a need, it means we want something, except we are also suggesting we will be unhappy if we do not get it. This is a form of fear. Once there is fear, our primal instinct to save us from anything "scary" kicks in and keeps us from going for the same thing that we so dearly WANT! Mind-blowing!
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